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  I used to love Oliver Twist and so do my kids!  They especially like the part where Oliver bravely approaches his keeper to ask for more of the disgusting gruel they give to the work house children. Food is … Continue reading

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It was three years last week when our children moved in with us. Those three years have been a real roller coaster of emotions but one thing is sure – it takes time to adapt to this adoption journey for … Continue reading

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‘What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us’. Henry David Thoreau. I heard this quote recently on TV and it raised a question in me – how true is … Continue reading

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If you had your time all over again what would you have done differently?  We had this topic at our adoption support group last night and it was a really interesting and beneficial night.  It’s got me thinking what a … Continue reading

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  Fairy tales are brilliant – I love them…but one of my children was talking about them today and said the well known phrase “they all lived happily ever after”.  It made me think about this journey of adoption we … Continue reading

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Are you ever confused about what your children want or need?  Sometimes it’s difficult to know as they don’t know themselves and if they do can’t articulate it or communicate in a way we can understand.  I found a cartoon … Continue reading

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On holiday last week we were driving down a steep road and I noticed the sign for an ESCAPE LANE – one of those little slip roads you can go down if you lose control on the road.  That phrase … Continue reading

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I will say nothing more this week other than this video and Mums have a great Easter with your kids!

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Trust is a difficult area for adopted children.  Why should they trust adults – we’ve not been a great example to them I’m sure – whether they’ve experienced a neglectful, abusive and/or inconsistent start in life – they have then … Continue reading

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There are many times when I ask myself why we took on this immense journey of adoption.  I’m sure there are those moments for you all!  When no matter how much you try to follow the therapeutic parenting route you … Continue reading

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  I’ve heard the phrase positive parenting many times before and thought I understood what it meant. However recently I’ve started to re-think how I feel about this.  Whilst we do need to be positive about our children and in … Continue reading

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I sometimes feel like I’m in no mans land in terms of my parenting experience. When you adopt (without having birth children first) it is a weird place to be. You don’t have the stories of pregnancy and childbirth to … Continue reading

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I’ve heard many times on adoption training that we need to be patient, calm and understanding to our kids – of which I totally agree. However recently this is becoming harder as we’re faced with a screaming child desperate to … Continue reading

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